Most have it some of the time and some have it most of the time, self-doubt. It is a byproduct of fear, fear of failure, of losing, of non-achievement. It is not always something you can just brush aside. Sometimes, it is borne out of a reasonable conclusion, a logical construct, a valid assessment. It may well be a state of mind acquired after cogitation. Ignoring your fear does not dispel it. False assurance does not remove the possibility of failure, and lack of success in your endeavor will lead to deeper fear and greater self-doubt. So, what causes self-doubt and what can you do about it? Keep reading.The process of winning over your fears, eliminating your self-doubt depends on the type and basis of such doubt. Without further ado, let me decipher and categorize it for you. Self-doubt can fall in one of the three non-exclusive categories:
1. Based on Non-Action
For example, a university student did not pay attention to his studies, he lagged behind in his coursework, and in a week from now are his exams. He is rushing to cover his syllabus but remains worried and doubtful about his passing the exams. He sits down to study but can no longer concentrate or persist because he has developed this fear of failure.
Well, he has given himself every reason to develop self-doubt. In fact, it is not just that but his intelligent mind warning him. Chances are, under the ordinary circumstances, he is not going to pass his exam. He cannot regain his confidence by artificially consoling or pacifying his mind, a false assurance can only take you so far, ultimately, the reality is going to raise its head.
The best way to overcome self-doubt of this type is to sincerely work towards your goal. Observe, learn, adapt, adopt, understand, persevere, do what you have to do to stay course, to hold your fort. Actions bring results, it is action alone that will lead you to your goal, and like they say, nothing motivates like success. With practice, you attain perfection.
Practice. Persistence. Patience. If you work on these three, self-doubt will leave you forever, in the potent presence of success, it promptly loses its existence.
2. Based on Past Experience
A sense of self-doubt based on your past is a common scenario. Each time you fail, you register an emotion, an experience in your mind. Millions of years of evolution has transformed human mind to cling to negative emotions and fears. Some do it more than others. I do not know of anybody who never failed. Some get back to action and attain success, eliminating their fear while many hold onto their failures limiting themselves from exploring their full potential.
Conscious mind is calculative, it is analytical, that is how humans have risen to the top of the food chain and this is the reason they have developed conscious and conditioned fears. I will elaborate on this term another day.
For example, let us say, years ago, you tried to lose weight. You were supposed to control your diet and spend four hours at the gym every week. Disregarding the discipline, you did not work as planned, you went to the gym for six days in a row one week and only once the next. The weighing scale did not budge from its original reading. You started to lose interest and began doubting if you would ever be able to lose weight. And one day, you gave up and went back to your old lifestyle, causing even more damage to your physical and mental well being.
When you allow yourself to fail, you weaken your mind, especially if you were not honest with yourself. Fear, doubt and other negative emotions thrive in a weak mind. If your sense of self-doubt is based on your failure in the past, all you have to do is reflect on the reasons of your failure. If you do not repeat the past actions, past results will not manifest. History can only repeat itself if you start living a historical present.
Einstein once said, “Insanity is to keep doing the same thing but expect different results.”
3. Based on Innate Fear
Self-doubt based on fear is more common when one wants to tread the unknown waters, some even have the ripe opportunity, but they are either settled in their comfort zone or too afraid to try anything new; the latter is my present focus.
Ability to take risks varies in each individual. If you have been contemplating on embarking on a new venture, trying something different, but self-doubt and fear of failure keeps holding you back, you can only address them by contemplation and strategy. If you are keen on learning how to swim, eventually, you have to jump in the water. There comes a time when you have to let go off the floaters and swim on your own.
The best way to overcome fear based self-doubt is to write down your answers to the following questions:
a. Why do I want change?
b. Am I ready to embrace change?
c. What is the worst that can happen?
d. Do I feel competent enough to handle the worst?
Reflect on your answers, prioritize and act accordingly.
When you experience self-doubt, get to its root to remove it. Do not just ignore it, especially if it persists. It could just be your fear or it may well be your intuitive faculty guiding you. You will only know the truth upon self-reflection. And I reiterate, the most potent question you can ask yourself to overcome self-doubt is: What is the worst that can happen?
Take it easy. Do not spend your time brooding over past, over-anticipating your future or making elaborate plans devoid of action. It is a precious life, do something priceless with it.