As promised earlier, I am elucidating for you the practice of emotional healing and erasing psychic imprints. Emotions are stored in the form of images and words. Even in the case of people going through physical abuse, the physical wounds may heal over time but it is the mind’s uncanny ability to store and recall thoughts in the form of images and words that causes the greatest grief.
The stages of emotional healing
In your quiet moments, when you recall painful incidents, you naturally feel indisposed. The more you try to forget them, the heavier they become, the faster you try to run away from them the quicker they get to you. At that moment, even the most promising methods rarely work. There is natural healing and there is conscious healing. Natural healing can take a long time, and sometimes it never happens.
The practice of emotional healing, of erasing your imprints of images and words, is a deliberate effort, it falls under conscious healing. The greater your effort the better and quicker the healing.
Feeling depressed, angry, constrained, down, pensive, and so forth are merely the symptoms of an emotionally wounded person. Like I said once, it means you are still hurt somewhere within, the pain is still there. You may have simply denied it. That is not going to help beyond a certain point. It is not worthwhile to fight the symptoms. Go to the root to heal yourself.
Others, those whom you look up to, and those who are genuine healers, may be able to trigger the healing process, they may be able to pinpoint it for you, but ultimately, your healing needs to occur within, it comes from your own effort. It is like someone may get you the job, but it is your performance alone that will get you the pay. Without further ado, let me share with you the two finest methods of emotional healing.
The yogic method – The permanent method of healing
This is the more difficult, but permanent, method. It can heal you beyond just the incident in focus. Success in all yogic methods depends on the aspirant’s ability to sit still, concentrate, and visualize. Maintaining one posture stills the primary energies, concentration stills the five secondary energies and readies your mind, and visualization is the actual healing.
The longer you are able to hold onto your visualization during your session of meditation, the quicker the healing. Visualization is like performing surgery; the patient (mind) needs to be perfectly still (posture) while the surgeon (you) concentrates and does the procedure (visualization). Here are the steps:
1. Posture: Sit still with your back straight. Preferably crossed legged but any other comfortable posture will do just fine for this practice.
2. Close your eyes.
3. Breath: Do deep breathing, just normal deep breathing, for a few minutes. The discriminating faculties of the conscious mind will become somewhat passive as a result.
4. Recall a person or an incident that caused you great grief in the past. Your mind will automatically pick up all related emotions and thoughts. Try to stay on that one person or incident though.
5. Visualization: Imagine releasing a soft, white light from your heart chakra in the form of compassion and forgiveness. The Anahata chakra, also known as the heart chakra, is a psychoneurotic plexus situated near your heart, in the center of your chest, at the vertical middle point between your throat and navel, between the two nipples. If you experience guilt because you did something wrong, visualize forgiving yourself. If you feel you are at fault for what you had to go through, forgive yourself still.
You will travel through a whole plethora of emotions as you do this practice. Bring back your attention and focus on the calming white light. Visualize yourself being infused with it. Do not hesitate from engaging in some self-dialog; your focus, however, should not be to binge and brood over but to erase and eradicate the imprint. It is not about right or wrong, it is just about forgiving for your own good.
Clean the whole canvas of images. Repaint it with your favorite scene. Imagine yourself in bliss and smiling, envision living your dream, being happy, and being healthy.
6. Take a few deep breaths again and slowly open your eyes.
7. If you believe in God, say your favorite prayer, or simply express your gratitude for all that you have been blessed with.
One session should last a minimum of fifteen minutes. Be consistent. Do not expect results in the first session. Once you have done it an enough number of times, around thirty, you will experience a miracle: after a while, you will find that recalling that incident or person no longer aggravates or irritates you. On the contrary, you will experience peace upon such recollection. You have successfully transformed, metamorphosed, your emotion. It is a beautiful feeling, an empowering one.
Most yogic methods require an average of twenty-eight days of daily practice before they show any results. It takes usually six months before an aspirant starts to perfect the practice. Once you are able to practice intense visualization, you can accomplish just about anything you can imagine. Subsequent healing sessions accomplish much more, much quicker.
The intellectual method
Think about what happens when a child gets a new toy. He is fascinated. The more he gets to play with it, the quicker such attractions start to whither away. He gets over the toy. Earlier he would talk to it, play with it, even sleep with it; now, the toy is dead. Its sighting does not trigger any emotion in the child.
Similarly, as much as naturally, albeit ironically, when you experience abuse, rejection, failure, deceit, lies, and pain, your mind gets a new toy. The more you try to avoid it, the stronger the attraction. Here is an easy way to get over those emotions.
To carry out this practice effectively, you either need a mirror or a dictaphone. The steps:
1. Start looking into the mirror or turn on the dictaphone.
2. Recall a negative or a painful incident from your past.
3. Start narrating it verbally, either by talking to the mirror or recording with your dictaphone.
4. Try to recall every minute detail of the incident. For example, let us assume that someone you deeply loved broke up with you. The time, manner, their demeanor, and the news itself were most unexpected. Years have passed but you have not gotten over it.
As part of this exercise, recall that incident. Do it boldly. Think of the color of the walls, what you ate prior to being given that news, what you were wearing, what was going through your mind, how the other person looked, what artifacts were there in the room, and what the surroundings were. Recall all these and say them out loud.
5. You will experience pain and hurt. You may experience an emotional outpour. Be bold. Do it multiple times over a number of sessions. Play with this toy. After fifteen to twenty sessions, the impact will simply disappear. Forever.
6. You can later listen to your own recording. As you do, you will recall even greater detail. Over a period, as you do your sessions, the whole incident, the person, that phase of your life, will cease to matter.
It is paramount to recall as much detail as possible. And here is why: Remember Bo? If you do not recall the detail, you will not be able to erase it. If you are unable to erase it, whenever you are going to see a similar color to the walls, people with similar expressions, or even a similar type of food that you had that day, it will silently trigger the negative or dampening emotion in you.
Hence, I cannot stress enough the importance of recalling as much detail as possible. The information recall in the fifth session, for instance, will be much greater compared to the first. So, repeat this exercise until you get over the incident completely. The devil is in the details! Here is a nice article from wikiHow on visualization.
You can also do this practice with a friend who is willing to listen to you without judgment. You could take turns. You could help the other person heal, and they, you. This is why sharing, and talking it out with someone nonjudgmental can make one feel lighter. Each time you talk it out, it further reduces the impact of that emotion. This is the reason people tend to share their ordeals with their friends. This is the mind’s natural coping mechanism. When you speak about it, the imprint softens.
For more, read this post I wrote a while ago on the karmic trail and psychic imprints.
No imprint means no pain. No pain means you are healed.
Healing of the mind is almost like returning to your original state of peace and bliss, of joy and happiness, of compassion and tolerance.
Heal yourself; you owe it to yourself. Treat yourself; you deserve it. Be yourself; you are worth it.
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Healing from emotional abuse is a long road. It requires time and a deliberate effort. The following questions address emotional pain in more detail. Here’s how to heal yourself to experience peace and our original state of bliss.
To what extent does heartbreak change a person?
The emotional healing process of a broken heart is painful. Every time you are hurt, a little bit of you is broken. You patch yourself, determined to win over or change the other person, but with each hit you take, you lose a bit more of yourself.
Just like sand sifts through a tightly clenched fist, the harder you try to hold yourself, the quicker you lose yourself. And one day you stand empty of any emotions towards the other person. That day you become a stranger to them, even to yourself to some extent.
You look at yourself in the mirror but the old you, the happy you, is nowhere to be found. You see the same body in the mirror but you don’t feel the same person inside. This is a sad stage for you have lost yourself and unless you spot the beacon of love, waves of emotions will continue to toss the ship of your life.
The good news? Emotional healing is possible. Continue reading about how to heal yourself.
How do I deal with emotional pain?
There are some memories that bother you, incidents you cannot get over, people you cannot forgive, things you cannot forget, and so forth. You want to forgive, to forget, to move on, to get over, yet something deep-rooted in you, perhaps the pain, the anguish, stops you from being yourself, being happy.
If you can heal yourself of most, if not all, major untoward happenings in your life, you will experience a blissful state without even going through the rigors of meditation. Let me introduce you to the thesis of emotional healing through Bo’s story. If you’ve been wondering how to heal from your pain, look no further.
How does someone heal emotional trauma?
How do you ensure that your experience and the hurt from your past are not shrouding the truth you must see?
Healing is your answer.
Until you are healed completely, vulnerability is painful and remains a persistent threat to your spiritual evolution. Like hay fever, your past and emotional pain return at every turn of the season in your life and choke you. The question, therefore, is how to heal?
There is no better way to heal yourself than practicing forgiveness. When you experience that void where the abuser refuses to own up to his actions, you will undergo a painful process of transformation, but you must go beyond the act of forgiving and practice forgiveness as a virtue, instead.
Continue reading about forgiveness as a powerful method of healing for damaged emotions.
Is forgiving someone a self-healing process?
Forgiveness is an act, a conscious choice. The trouble is, even though it is an act, this emotion is very hard to practice in reality because often we are so clamped by our feelings and psychological pain that the majority of the time our emotions win over us. They don’t look like choices at all.
But when you continue to practice forgiveness, after a while from a mere act or an emotion, it becomes a state of your being. It becomes a part of your nature.
Let me tell you a little secret: every time you forgive someone for their wrongdoing, Nature forgives you for one of yours. One day when you’ll have no grudges against anyone in your life, when you won’t have anyone left to forgive, nature will have left nothing against you either.
And, I don’t think I’ve to tell you how light you’ll feel then, how you’ll fly far and free like a contented bird in the blue sky.
Healing from emotional abuse is possible only when you let go. Continue reading about how to heal yourself through forgiveness.
Can prayer heal one’s pain?
Praying is your way of self-purification, of gaining inner strength, becoming worthy of his grace, of connecting with him. It is one of the finest paths to experience him, to thank him, to be with him. Grace is his way of showing He is, it is his style of connecting with you, answering your questions, protecting you, being by your side, and watching out for you.
Grace does not mean he can directly absolve you of your karmic duties and karmic debt. God is not going to stop the rain for you, he will happily give you an umbrella. A prayer in the right spirit can transform you, if your faith is firm, your prayers can yield results. Continue reading about praying, and if it really works.