DISCOURSE – 2 (March 16, 2021)
Whatever emotion you keep in your mind, for that, you, and only you, are responsible.
28:41 – 35:13 : So, when a person doesn’t feel those devotional sentiments towards God, while on a spiritual path, or, he/she doesn’t attain Siddhis, at that time, he/she cannot argue that “I am sad, I am angry, I am jealous because that person is doing this to me!”. This arguing doesn’t have any importance at all. It is sophistry. Let the other person handle his/her business, you handle yours. If you go to a doctor, and the doctor says, “You have diabetes, you have blood pressure, you are overweight”, and you reply, “See, I take great care of my body. But, in our house, we have frequents visits from our relatives, and hence, I am forced to eat Puri, Gulabjamun, Kheer etc”. And you tell the doctor, “This is the reason I am getting fat! This is the reason I am falling ill! Because, the others keep on making me eat”. Maybe, you are speaking the Truth. Maybe, you are not a 20 year old, or a 40 year old, maybe, you are a 2 year old who’s getting spoon-fed. But, who is suffering its fruits? You. You are suffering from two angles : One, you are eating food of the person whose food you don’t want to eat. Second, you are eating that food, which you don’t want to eat. It is you, who has to pay the price.
So, whatever we receive, in the form of emotions, words, or deeds, no matter what is the reason, Its responsibility is upon Us. And this is why, God has said that, “Sthitpragya is that person who is equanimous in all circumstances.”
मात्रास्पर्शास्तु कौन्तेय शीतोष्णसुखदु: खदा: |
आगमापायिनोऽनित्यास्तांस्तितिक्षस्व भारत ||
mātrā-sparśhās tu kaunteya śhītoṣhṇa-sukha-duḥkha-dāḥ
āgamāpāyino ’nityās tans-titikṣhasva bhārata
O son of Kunti, the contact between the senses and the sense objects gives rise to fleeting perceptions of happiness and distress. These are non-permanent, and come and go like the winter and summer seasons. O descendent of Bharat, one must learn to tolerate them without being disturbed.
– Bhagavad Gita Chapter 2, Verse 14
Because, it is not possible that everybody becomes your friend. A long time back, I had told you about Gaalib – “ग़ालिब बुरा न मान जो वाइज़ बुरा कहे ,ऐसा भी कोई है कि सब अच्छा कहें जिसे? (O Gaalib, don’t feel bad if someone is speaking ill of you. Is there anyone, whom all people regard as good?)”. Nobody is like that! Everyone has critics, even if you do the best of things. Now, those who don’t speak good about us, who don’t behave well with us, who don’t have good emotions for us, do you really want to give the austerities of your soul, to that person?
The person whom we are thinking about, we are giving our energy to that person. Do you want to give your Tapas (Austerities) to that Daitya (Demon)? I don’t think so. Hence, when such emotions arise in your mind, then, at that time (some things you have to do before such emotions arise, so that such emotions don’t arise at all, or arise for a very short span of time, and some things you have to do, when those emotions arise), first solution (which I have already told you earlier) is speaking to yourself : “मैं जानता हूँ की मेरा मन कुछ न कुछ सोचता रहता है हर समय, यदि इस क्षण, मैं इस व्यक्ति के बारे में, या इस परिस्थिति के बारे में न सोच रहा होता, तो मैं क्या सोच रहा होता? (I very well know that my mind keeps on thinking something or the other all the time, but, at this moment, had I not been thinking about this person, or this circumstance, then what would I be thinking?)”. “Suppose this person or this circumstance wouldn’t have been here, then something must have been going in my mind. What would it be?
You can try this any time. In a matter of moments, the mind will get changed. Now, as soon as that happens, fix your concentration, your consciousness in that direction. Because, you have to break the contemplation that was going on. Then, the mind would get away from those thoughts.
Just as, suppose, you are getting sweat while sitting near fire, you are feeling hot, and if you keep on thinking, “What if I wouldn’t feel so hot while sitting near fire, how good would that be! How good would it be, if I wouldn’t sweat, or if the fire wouldn’t be here!”. Just stand up, and move far away from that fire!
The emotions/feelings which is heating you up, to get away from it, this was an easy way. And some things must be done before such emotions arise in you, so that those emotions don’t arise in you at all. Being Satyanisht (Truthful) is one of those.