One of the most common and destructive daily habit is to constantly compare your life and yourself to other people and their lives.
Do not make it so intricate that you will forget your own value .
You compare cars, houses, jobs, shoes, money, relationships, social popularity and so on.
And at the end of the day you pummel your self-esteem to the ground and you create a lot of negative feelings within.
So what can you do? How can you get a handle on this habit?
Well, today I’d like to share 3 steps that have helped me to move away from this – it does take some time though so be patient with yourself – and towards a healthier outlook and view of myself and life.
Step 1: Just realise that you can’t win if you compare yourself to others.
No matter what you do you can pretty much always find someone else in the world that has more than you or is better than you at something.
Yes, you may feel good for a while when you get a nicer car than your neighbour.
But a week or two later you’ll see someone from the next block with an even finer car than yours.
Step 2: Compare yourself to yourself.
Instead of comparing yourself to other people create the habit of comparing yourself to yourself.
See how much you have grown, what you have achieved and what progress you have made towards your goals.
By doing so your thinking will over time shift and your thought patterns will automatically become more focused on comparing youself with you rather than to other people.
Step 3: Be kinder towards other people.
Be kinder to other people and help them and you tend to be kinder and more helpful to yourself.
So focus your mind on helping people and being kind and appreciate what is positive in yourself and in others.
This way you become more OK with yourself and the people in your world instead of ranking them and yourself in your mind.
You are OK and so are they😊
Go and Create your own sunshine 🌞