Frustration, Frustration, Frustration yes we all are facing frustration in some stage of life or maybe some are facing it every single day.
you already know how it feels .. it makes you less confident, deeply affect your mind, sometimes turn you to do the thing which is not good to, and leads to fighting in some case…. makes you feel nervous and your frustrated behavior affects your relationships too.
we get frustrated with things and people around us. we are also frustrated with the kind of life we want and are not living the way we want to live.
sometimes we are even frustrated with ourselves because we plan to do something and ended our day not doing that. Life is full of frustrations. From the minor irritations of losing something to the major problem of continued failure towards a desired goal.
From a very early age, people learn to express frustration by copying the behavior they see modeled around them, and by expressing frustration and angry behavior and seeing what they can get away with.
We all suffer from frustration, and being able to effectively deal with frustration is a very important skill to develop. Each person needs to learn how to control frustration so that it does not control them.“Frustration is a feeling or an emotion that we feel when we blocked by reaching to a desired outcome.”
Whenever you are frustrated first thing you have to do is to observe the frustration by asking the right kind of questions, remember by asking the right kind of questions you can overcome frustration or any other obstacles so ask very first yourself (Q.1) “ Why I am really feeling frustrated? “I know I know you can say that oh man, I already know why I am feeling frustrated don’t make me even more !! see is that your reaction so note down sometimes we just feel frustrated without any reason so by questioning yourself you got the idea .. does your frustration worth it?
just stay with me at the end of this post you will get a clear idea of how to overcome your frustration.
The two types of goal blockage we experience.
1) Internal frustration.
2) External frustration.
1) INTERNAL FRUSTRATION – Internal Frustration is experienced whenever the results (goals) you are expecting do not seem to fit the effort and action you are applying.
Frustration will occur whenever your actions are producing less and fewer results than you think they should.
Internal sources of frustration usually involve the disappointment that gets when we cannot have what we want as a result of personal real or imagined deficiencies such as a lack of confidence or fear of social situations.
Another type of internal frustration results when a person has competing goals that interfere with one another.
let’s read the definition of Frustration again. “Frustration is a feeling or an emotion that we feel when we blocked by reaching the desired outcome.”
Here you feel blocked by reaching the desired outcome which means you are expecting by whom …. yes, now you get it. It’s you yourself. And when you are expecting something from yourself that means you have one hundred percent ( 100 %) control over it.
So as you ask yourself (Q.1) which we talk earlier, now see that does your frustration belongs to the internal frustration category? But all people have different mindsets and capabilities so, some people may answer is “yes” and some can say “no” hurray if you say “yes” you have complete control over it.
but if your answer is “no” I can understand if you are expecting something from yourself and unable to reach your goal leads to anger, loss of confidence, and self-esteem We live in a difficult time and we have to be persistent in order to accomplish.
Consider how many projects you began, and then gave up, because you became frustrated and lost patience. Make a list of things you started and quit because they seemed too difficult. Now calculate the disappointment and loss you suffered by not dealing with the frustration in a more healthy way. Try to remember that quitters never win, and winners never quit. Losing your temper means you’re a quitter.
Loss of confidence is a terrible frequent side effect of giving up and not fulfilling your goal. A loss of self-confidence and self-esteem means that If we quit once, then the next time we plan a goal, we may not be able to accurately assess our ability to carry it out and we stop trusting ourselves and our own abilities.
This became a self-fulfilling and self-destructive attitude. You need to be able to learn that when the going gets tough, you say to yourself “It is worth it!” and by following through, it not only gets the job done, but it builds your self-confidence.
Frustration is not always a bad thing it can be a great indicator of problems in human life. Even Cognitive Psychology said – “certain kind of difficulty, certain kind of obstacles can actually improve our performance.”
2 ) EXTERNAL FRUSTRATION – The second type of frustration results from external causes that involve conditions outside the person such as physical roadblocks we encounter in life including other people and things that get in the way of our goals.
One of the biggest sources of frustration in today’s world is the frustration caused by the perception of wasting time. When you’re standing in line at a bank, or in traffic, or on the phone, watching your day go by when you have got so much to do, that’s one big frustration.
When something is not being done the way we want it done, or someone is not doing what we want them to do, we have a real challenge dealing with it. don’t be disappointed with that, the situation isn’t going smoothly sometimes.
if we are more frustrated with them, situations are gonna worse then .they already did it. That is passed right now, you don’t have control over the past. But intelligence is you have control over the present now.
But still, Everything is not in our control. External frustration may be unavoidable. We can try to do something about it, like finding a different route if we are stuck in traffic, or choosing a different restaurant if our first choice is closed, but sometimes there is just nothing we can do about it.
It is just the way life is. When we understand that sometimes things are not as working as we want. Neither you can change a person nor he can you.
Remember, you can not eliminate frustration. In spite of all your efforts, things will happen that will cause you frustration and anger.
Life is filled with frustration, pain, loss, and the unpredictable actions of others. You can change yourself or control yourself, but You can’t change others or any other external cause where you have absolutely no control over it.
Now you know that things are not gonna in your way and as you want to be. So there is no sense to be frustrated because, it will happen no matter what and definitely in the future you have to face it again, but the only thing which makes you out of the external frustration is to understand and remember the thing that life is unusual sometimes and you cannot change things but you can change the way you let such events affect you.
If you find my words helpful to you, I feel good to know from you. please tell me in the comment.