“Young love is a flame; very pretty, often very hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. The love of the older and disciplined heart is as coals, deep-burning, unquenchable”. Henry Ward Beecher
Starting with the centuries-old Romeo and Juliet’s story, we are built with dreams and fantasy in our minds about the perfect love stories. When they fell in love, she was barely into her teens, and he wasn’t much older. Some saw them as a star-crossed couple who found understanding, joy, and maturity in each other’s arms. Others saw them as impulsive kids whose reckless passion cut them off from family, friends, and more appropriate interests, provoked mood swings, delinquent behavior and experimentation with drugs, and ended in tragedy.
Infatuation is an intense emotion that one feels for another person. Because it is temporary in nature, it slowly fades away if it does not gets fueled regularly. One of the facts about it is that some of us are prone to falling into infatuation more than others. Many in the adolescent stage including me struggled to understand the reason behind the infatuating and fleeting feelings. During those times, I felt very heavy inside me as I had a strong belief that, these feelings are extremely wrong and harmful for my life. I was in a constant turbulent state on what to do and how to overcome it. I used to never reveal it to anyone as I know it’s complete taboo, ended up cutting all sort of relationship with that person, and suffered myself with no support and help.
By Swaminji’s help and grace, the below suggestions worked for me to be in peace and I would like to share it with others.
Find Peace and removal of guilty consciousness
I was told that there was nothing moral or immoral in the act and was asked to accept it as a natural emotion and my guilty conscious was removed by the affirmations that usually all the individual might experience these emotions at different stages of life. I was advised to take it naturally and not to be guilty at any point in time. This made me be at ease and the suppressed inner feeling has gone and made me feel light and be at ease.
Engaging ourselves in a productive pursuit
I was suggested to redirect my mind by engaging in an activity that I completely love. Finding a passion in a creative pursuit and actively engaging in it almost always solves the majority of the problem.
An idle mind is the devil’s workshop & makes a person lazy
Keeping ourselves engaged in hobbies that we enjoy the most , worked as the best option to replace any unwanted thought. When I redirected all my energy to my passion, I almost forgot everything and was happy thinking that I was progressing to a much better state. When you’re having fun, time flies by, right? The same can be said when you are in a state of deep work, the day just passes without you noticing.
I am very grateful for Swamiji’s and the team for sharing these ideas and relieving me from a heavy burden, I felt once in my life. I am sharing these suggestions passed on to me with the hope that it might also help someone going through this phase without any guidelines and support.