Q. What is success? Who is a successful person in your eyes?
Ans. Ultimately, the real success is Inner Harmony. If you are in harmony inside, then you are successful, because such a person will spread fragrance. Such a person will help others, such a person will also help himself/herself. I always say – Everybody is a balloon, some are full of fragrance, and some are full of crap. It’s when you are pricked, and you burst, what comes out of you determines what was in you to begin with! So, you decide what it is that you want to fill yourself with.
उद्धरेदात्मनात्मानं नात्मानमवसादयेत् |
आत्मैव ह्यात्मनो बन्धुरात्मैव रिपुरात्मन: ||
Elevate yourself through the power of your mind, and not degrade yourself, for the mind can be the friend and also the enemy of the self.
बन्धुरात्मात्मनस्तस्य येनात्मैवात्मना जित: |
अनात्मनस्तु शत्रुत्वे वर्ते तात्मैव शत्रुवत् ||
For those who have conquered the mind, it is their friend. For those who have failed to do so, the mind works like an enemy.
You are your own greatest friend and your own worst enemy. That’s what this verse means, that I just said. And the second one was : If your mind is going according to you, you are your friend. If you are running after your mind, you are your own enemy. Because mind is very talkative. It just does not shut up. 60,000 thoughts in a span of 24 hours! If you learn the art of making your mind listen to you, (then) focus, concentration, effort, productivity, comes naturally. If you are constantly battling with your mind, or you are trying that your mind should listen to you, but it ends up that you are listening to your mind, then you’ll be eternally distracted! The amount of work you can get done in life depends on how focused you are in anything that you do.
So, above all – Lead a meaningful life, in harmony. Understand that just like you, everybody has opinions, everybody has a right to live the way they want. Live and let live. And success is in your hands. There is some part of it that is in the hands of “unknown forces”. By that, I’m not saying that somebody is up there calling the shots like “I’m gonna make this guy feel a lot of pain, or give this guy success”. No. I’m saying you only control so much in your life. But the things we do control, you should make every attempt to harness, to channelize those things. And the things we don’t control, you can make a conscious attempt to be in harmony with those things. With that Inner Peace, you WILL experience what is success. It’s not just building wealth or earning money or building companies. That’s not really the definition of success. That is only one of the definitions of success. Real success is : When your presence makes you feel beautiful about you, and when your presence makes others feel beautiful about themselves.
I’ll just quickly tell this incidence I heard once: This person was a disciple of Neem Karoli Baba. He said, “You know what, Baba loved everybody. But that wasn’t surprising for me because it was the job of saints to love everybody.”. He said, “That was okay. What amazed me the most is that when I was in His presence, “I” loved everybody”.
And that is what success is, if you ask me. When in your presence, somebody feels comforted, somebody feels valued, somebody feels secure, somebody feels loved, somebody feels content, somebody feels “I belong”, that is success, according to NATURE! Because according to nature, nature’s only interested in “what helps it grow”! When you have somebody beyond yourself, Nature’s immediately interested in you. It’s a seed that is going to sprout and become a tree later with fruits. Nature’s not interested in somebody who’s constantly holding on to his own life, his own thoughts, his own desires. ANYTHING YOU WANT TO GROW, YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO SPREAD. Anything you spread will grow. If you have a small farm, you put 50 seeds, maybe 40 plants will come out. If you have a large farm, you put half a million seeds, 400,000 plants may come out! Anything you want to grow in life, whatever it is, you SHARE it, and it will grow.
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