ਧਨੁ ਦਾਰਾ ਸੰਪਤਿ ਸਗਲ ਜਿਨਿ ਅਪੁਨੀ ਕਰਿ ਮਾਨਿ ॥
ਇਨ ਮੈ ਕਛੁ ਸੰਗੀ ਨਹੀ ਨਾਨਕ ਸਾਚੀ ਜਾਨਿ ॥੫॥
Dhan Daaraa Sampat Sagal Jin Apni Kar Maan |
In Mein Kacch Sangi Nahin Naanak Saachi Jaan | 5 |
Massive treasure, huge wealth, wife these all,
With mighty arrogance as yours you call.
Says Naanak, ‘tis the Truth that you must know,
None of these is truly after your death thy fellow.
Guru Ji’s giving us a view from when we are on death-bed, in other words when the life-force in our body ceases, everything is left behind. Therefore, He is not demeaning anyone’s wife; he is not saying that you must not earn. He is saying that, please do not get attached to them, just simply love your wife with respect and with honour. When we love (read: be compassionate towards) and respect our respective wife, we do not tie her with our attachment. From that follows that we will not control her nor abuse her for sexual pleasure (in other words we will not use her as object). If we consider sex as part of life, it is not shame nor taboo. When we earn money with honesty and thanking God, and if we do not hoard it dishonestly or go mad for it, instead we help the needy ones when needed, our mind becomes calm and content. We must not call them our own for they are temporary, prone to decay, as our own body is prone to death. It is therefore necessary to pray to Lord and know our own self, by which we can live a balanced life.
And if Maataa Gujri Ji, the wife of Guru Tegh Bahadur Ji, had written this couplet, she would have used husband, instead of wife. So to conclude, when we live our life in devotion and balance; we can genuinely love our beloved ones, our children, wife, parents, friends, and we will not trouble them to gain something from them. We can respect them, for we will see God in them. With devotion for God our heart becomes naturally full of purity and love and we will not use others for our own egoistic interest. We begin to treat everyone and everything with kindness as we love our self. In our heart we must remember that once our body is gone, they are separated from us like a caterpillar leaves its cocoon, when transformed in a butterfly.
P.S. It is important to know, that some people keep, even at their death-bed, in mind the wealth, the mansions, the joy of sex, that is why Guru Ji helping us remember that we must be Gurmukh or Sthithapragya first, so that we consider the world temporary and not the absolute.