It is quiet easy to get in a rut. You possibly have goals but for some reason, you are not holding out to them. It is possible that your self-judgment is causing you to lower your expectations, or your low self-worth is preventing you from making the positive changes. It is also accountable that you can also get stuck in worry, be afraid to make any decision or even change something in your life. It could be a possibility that you are completely disappointed with how a particular situation turned out, and it just feels evidently too hard to move on.

The problem here is that when we get stuck, we often wait for external changes to happen. We have to understand that changes do not just happen to us; it has to in fact come from within us. Change is scary and painful, but it is also necessary for getting unstuck. So when it happens, many opportunities do open up.

Be thankful for everything that happens in your life; it’s all an experience. – Roy Bennett

Please venture into these seven strategies when you feel stuck:

1. Let go of the past. (This is a must)

Listen to the stories playing in your head. Are you thinking about the occurrences that happened in the past? Are you finding it difficult to forgive yourself for the mistakes you made? Are you in turn blaming yourself or more so others for things that did not turn out the way you hoped for them to be? You need to first ask yourself why you are so stuck on these memories, and in turn what you can do to live with them, accept them, and move forward. You cannot possibly undo the past, but you can certainly choose to find peace. Forgiving yourself or others is an ideal way to let go and then move on rather move forward.

2. Change your perspective. (By changing your inputs)

Once you do go ahead release the clutches of the past, you will envision your reality in new ways and feel way freer to change your attitude too. To gain a brand new perspective, do meditate or spend quality time alone and definitely listen to your inner voice. If you can, please go ahead with travelling or taking a break from your daily routine to clear your mind and get a clean distance away from your current situation. Do open yourself up to new people and ideas, and go ahead to introduce regular physical activity into your routine. All of these positive and healthy changes will help you gain a new perspective on the future and what in turn is possible!

3. Start with implementing small changes. 

Change does stimulate different parts of the brain that do improve creativity and the clarity of mind. You can begin small by changing your daily routines, moving things around your house, or even making new friends. Please understand that every choice matters. You might be very tempted to skip the little things because they do not always seem quite important in the moment. You will notice that after a while, an accumulation of small changes will help you accomplish your very goals, and you will begin to feel unstuck!

4. Do go ahead and explore your purpose. 

Please understand that your life’s purpose is not just your job, your responsibilities, or your goal. Your purpose is what makes you feel alive. These are certain things you are passionate about and will always fight for.

Examples of a life purpose could possibly be:

·       Helping people overcome the sadness of being ill/ diseased/ downtrodden.

·       Helping others in reaching their full potential.

·       Growing and evolving as a human being.

·       Protecting animals who are suffering. And many more…

The key is you may need to change your life purpose if it no longer inspires you. Or, if you feel like you have not had a purpose, this is a great time to define the same. So go ahead and ask yourself the following questions as you consider your life purpose:

·       What makes me happy or content?

·       What were my favourite things to do in the past?

·       What are my treasured things to do in the present?

·       When do I enjoy myself so very much or become so very committed to something that I completely lose track of time?

·       Who does inspire me the most, and why?

·       What makes me feel superb about myself?

·       What am I inherently good at?

5. Believe in you come what may. 

Trust and confide that you can reach your expectations and in turn get out of your comfort zone. Do make a list of all your strengths and positive traits, and definitely remember that you are highly capable. Many people by default sabotage their own progress consciously or even unconsciously as a result of deep-seated fears and limiting beliefs.

The first step towards believing in yourself is to recognize your self-doubt. Do pay close attention to the ways you react to situations. Then you can work to reframe, re-evaluate and re-asses your self-doubt. Limitations such as, “I cannot” or “I do not know” can be replaced with, “I cannot do that yet, but I am working on it,” or “I do not know now, but I will.” Another way to instil confidence and conviction in your abilities is to write down your past successes and keep the very notes handy when you need instant proof that you can do things that are definitely challenging or even new.

There is so more to the book than the page you think you are stuck on!

6. Practice being hopeful that in turn makes you optimistic and buoyant.

You could have had a lot of disappointments that led to this moment in your life when you feel helpless and incapable.  This could mean that you are going through a naturally protective feeling of pessimism. This is something you will have to work on to change. Go ahead and find a practice, such as meditation, prayer, or even reading inspirational books, and do the same regularly. Hope is definitely not a permanent state. You need to work at it every day!

7.  Talk to someone who loves you.

One strategy you can definitely call upon is to talk to someone but not just anyone. It is recommended to seek someone who loves you and will provide a safe space for you.

“We begin to change the stuck neural pathways when someone we love looks us in the eye and celebrates our strengths and our dreams.” —Gwen Dittmar, life coach

Since being seen, heard, and more so understood is something we, as humans, crave a lot. Do ask this person to remind you of your strengths and dreams. You will begin to change and swap the stuck neural pathways when someone we love looks us in the eye and celebrates our strengths and more so our dreams.

 8. Write down gratitude lists

It is no secret that writing down gratitude lists can be a very powerful tool for keeping your mind focused on the good in your life, which can help you feel way to happier overall. Beyond that, the regular practice can be especially helpful for getting unstuck.

So are you ready to start your habit? It is recommended writing a gratitude list every day and in order to supercharge the very ritual, you can go ahead and challenge yourself to not repeat any items for which you are grateful. Finding new things to be grateful for stretches your mind-set beyond (the recognisable capacity) what you have been experiencing and stops the very dangerous loop of negative and past thinking!

9. Move your body effectively  

Whether you are focusing on what happened five years ago or five minutes ago, that sensation of feeling stuck in the past stays very well stuck in your body. To allow it to move through you, it is recommended to move your body every day until you feel it dissipate. Maybe that does look like dancing in your living room or even spinning your wheels at a cycling class. No matter which method feels the best to you, just make sure to get moving and start cracking!

10. Consider talking to a professional. (The last resort is to Seek Professional Help)

If you find that you are at a loss to change unhealthy thought patterns, do consider consulting a mental health provider to help you figure out why you are stuck, and go ahead with finding ways to get unstuck. Feeling stuck can be definitely part of a mental health disorder that can be effectively treated with psychotherapy, medication, or even a combination of the two. So having accurate professional support as you work changing long-established thinking patterns can be extremely helpful. So sometimes asking for help can be the most hopeful and yet the powerful step you can take.

 “There is no greater future than the one you can imagine for yourself” – Alex Budurovici