ਹਰਖੁ ਸੋਗੁ ਜਾ ਕੈ ਨਹੀ ਬੈਰੀ ਮੀਤ ਸਮਾਨਿ ॥
ਕਹੁ ਨਾਨਕ ਸੁਨਿ ਰੇ ਮਨਾ ਮੁਕਤਿ ਤਾਹਿ ਤੈ ਜਾਨਿ ॥੧੫॥
Harkh Sog Jaa Kai Nahin Bairi Meet Samaan |
Kaho Naanak Sun Re Manaa Mukt Taahe Tai Jaan | 15 |
In whose mind there is no attachment to happiness and grief,
Foe and Friend are equal in his eyes and sincere his belief.
Says Naanak, listen to me dearly, O restless mind,
Liberated is he, noose of death can never that person bind.
Guru Ji with this verse claims that happiness and grief are part of life, but a godly person does not get attached to them. Hence, we must understand that they both are ephemeral. We must know that only the Supreme Consciousness, or God or whichsoever name we prefer we can use to address the Incomprehensible, is the true cause of bliss. We need to develop a sense of detachment to both happiness and grief, so they cannot grasp our mind and destroy us. We can be happy, with wisdom that this shall pass; and we can grieve, with wisdom that this too shall pass. Then, for us this world will become a play (leela). Friend and foe are just name we give to an individual we like or dislike, but in essence they are made of same five elements, from that perspective we don’t have any particular foe nor friend, we are all the same and one at level of soul, so we don’t carry any grudge for anyone. In long term we never know even whom we call our enemy today, tomorrow he or she will become our greatest friend. Guru Ji advises us to remain always calm and be free from judgements and labels, like godly person does.