ਜਿਹਿ ਬਿਖਿਆ ਸਗਲੀ ਤਜੀ ਲੀਓ ਭੇਖ ਬੈਰਾਗ ॥
ਕਹੁ ਨਾਨਕ ਸੁਨੁ ਰੇ ਮਨਾ ਤਿਹ ਨਰ ਮਾਥੈ ਭਾਗੁ ॥੧੭॥
Jeh Bikhea Sagli Taji Lio Bhekh Bairaag |
Kaho Naanak Sun Re Manaa Teh Nar Maathe Bhaag | 17 |
The one who from all the filth has himself freed,
Lives in austerity, detached from desires and has no greed.
Says Naanak, O mind, listen to me with all sincerity,
That person has been kissed by blissful fate of prosperity.
Guru Ji is telling us that pleasure and grief occur only in mind due to a desire. If we reach that state of samadhi (meditative state) through sincere bhakti prem (bhagti in punjabi), then filth (negative thoughts, cruelty, dishonesty) cannot touch our mind. And, according to Guru, this is a great state, when we become pure and lord of mind, rather than being a slave of mind. It is true that joy and grief never leave till our last breath, but, once our mind is still, we can decide whether to let these take over us, or shed them away. Undoubtedly, desires can cause pleasure and grief, if they are fulfilled, pleasure takes over, and we can become egoistic and the chain of never-ending desires begins. In this salok, desire means to obtain something that we want, but not thanking God for giving it to us and never be satisfied with things we have. If grief takes over, we go in depression, living a hell-like life.
We must also remember that it is not wrong to desire as long as we consider what is necessary for us and others. For example, if we want to buy a new car, which is our favourite one, but somebody else bought it, we can get another model rather than picking a fight with that person so that our wish is accomplished.
So, it is better to be detached (the state of Bairaag) in all the decisions of life but doing everything with utmost sincerity and kindness, not indifferently. Now a little story to tell that what Bairaagi can represent: Guru Gobind Singh Ji, when he used to go to the battlefield against the atrocity of Mughal Empire, in his quiver there were arrows, on tip of which there was embedded some gold, so that if any soldier of mughal army would get hurt, he could get his medication and help his family. If the warrior died, his family members could afford his funeral rites. He saw not enemies in those warriors. Indeed, after the death of Aurangzeb Ji, Guru Gobind Singh Ji was ready to help his son, Bahadur Shah I to ascend the throne of Mughal empire. He did not have any grudge against this empire or muslims. Aurangzeb Ji was creating so much havoc at his time, that is why he took the arms against him. He represents an example of Bairaagi, for he showed neither favoritism nor antagonism towards someone specific. He thus became the warrior and the emblem of compassion at same time. The same goes with Sri Krishna Ji. Indeed, he wholeheartedly gave away his entire army to Duryodhan Ji.
It’s important to become Bairaagi, if some day the person, whom we call our enemy, comes at our door, receive him/her with wholeheartedness without an iota of enmity, whether they change their view you or not, it’s a different matter altogether.